Tag: "Adoptive Parent"

Advice for Birth Mothers on Starting a Search

Thank you for your courage in starting a search!

If you are a birth or original mother in search of an adoptee and are just starting your search, or if you have been searching for many years and are frustrated at your lack of success, you should understand that unfortunately in most states, the success of your search can be long and difficult, BUT not impossible.

Your son or daughter may not know very much about you. It's doubtful that the agency gave your name to the adoptee OR the adoptive parents.

Most states 'legally limit' the non-identifying or ... Read More

Adoptees - In Search Of Self

We are often asked 'why' adoptees come to a point in their lives that they start a search for biological family. The best answer to that question is that they are in search of 'self'. Soren Kierkegaard said this, "Life must be understood backwards, but... it must be lived forwards". When you are adopted and you do not know the beginning of your personal story, nothing that comes afterward makes any sense, and until you find out your own answers you never understand why.

An adoptee once explained his feelings this way. "Imagine that you are ... Read More