Tag: "Adoption"

Searching for a Sibling placed for Adoption

One of our most common requests here at Search Quest America comes from siblings who find out late in life that they have a another sibling that was placed for adoption. Some people are shocked that they were not told about the adoption, but most are also excited at the possibility of finding their missing family member.

Many siblings have very little information to start with when they are looking for a sibling placed for adoption so it's imperative that you do preliminary work prior to posting information on the Internet.

When you are in search of a sibling placed ... Read More

Successful Search? Reunion advice for Adoptees

If you are an adoptee who has initiated a successful search, you may be confused at what comes next in the reunion process. Most adoptees who start a search NEVER expect to be welcomed by the targeted birth family member. I know when I was facing that all important telephone call to my own birth father, the last thing I expected him to say was, "Hi, I guess I'm your Dad, what took you so long to call me?"

After talking to thousands of adoptees facing the same scenario, one thing is clear. We NEVER expected ... Read More

Advice for Birth Mothers on Starting a Search

Thank you for your courage in starting a search!

If you are a birth or original mother in search of an adoptee and are just starting your search, or if you have been searching for many years and are frustrated at your lack of success, you should understand that unfortunately in most states, the success of your search can be long and difficult, BUT not impossible.

Your son or daughter may not know very much about you. It's doubtful that the agency gave your name to the adoptee OR the adoptive parents.

Most states 'legally limit' the non-identifying or ... Read More

Advice for Adoptees Starting an Adoption Search

If you are an adoptee contemplating a search for your birth or biological family, the very first place to start is at the beginning, on the day you were born.

Check your birth certificate.

It may list more than you think. Depending on the State that issued it, the certificate may list your time of birth, the hospital, the delivering doctor's name and other things you can use in your search. If you have an amended 'short form' birth certificate, try to obtain what is called a 'long form' birth certificate. It may tell you more than what you currently ... Read More

Adoptees - In Search Of Self

We are often asked 'why' adoptees come to a point in their lives that they start a search for biological family. The best answer to that question is that they are in search of 'self'. Soren Kierkegaard said this, "Life must be understood backwards, but... it must be lived forwards". When you are adopted and you do not know the beginning of your personal story, nothing that comes afterward makes any sense, and until you find out your own answers you never understand why.

An adoptee once explained his feelings this way. "Imagine that you are ... Read More

Welcome to Adoption Search Tips

Welcome to Adoption Search Tips!

My name is Susan Friel-Williams and I am an adult adoptee who spent several long and very frustrating years in search of my biological family. Throughout that journey, I learned not only how to search, but also learned that there is a whole community of adoptee and birth family members who wish to reconnect.

In 1990 I obtained my first Private Investigator license in Idaho before relocating to Loveland, Colorado. For several years I was also a Senior Adoption Forum Host on America Online (Family Forum) where we guided adoption triad members through the ... Read More