Category: "Reunion Tips"

Successful Search? Reunion advice for Adoptees

If you are an adoptee who has initiated a successful search, you may be confused at what comes next in the reunion process. Most adoptees who start a search NEVER expect to be welcomed by the targeted birth family member. I know when I was facing that all important telephone call to my own birth father, the last thing I expected him to say was, "Hi, I guess I'm your Dad, what took you so long to call me?"

After talking to thousands of adoptees facing the same scenario, one thing is clear. We NEVER expected ... Read More

Adoptees - In Search Of Self

We are often asked 'why' adoptees come to a point in their lives that they start a search for biological family. The best answer to that question is that they are in search of 'self'. Soren Kierkegaard said this, "Life must be understood backwards, but... it must be lived forwards". When you are adopted and you do not know the beginning of your personal story, nothing that comes afterward makes any sense, and until you find out your own answers you never understand why.

An adoptee once explained his feelings this way. "Imagine that you are ... Read More